How meeting driver who caused fatal crash helped East Devon woman deal with the devastating death of her teenage son

An East Devon woman whose teenage son was killed in a car crash has spoken about her decision to meet the driver who caused the collision.

Jane Ure, of Uplyme, said her ‘world shattered’ when she was told sensitive, kind-hearted and sociable Will had died in the early hours of December 17, 2016.

Tragically, the 17-year-old apprentice carpenter lost his life when the Honda Civic he was a passenger in came off the A3052 in East Devon and hit a tree.

The driver, Will’s friend Richard Weldon, aged 28, suffered serious injuries.

Last year, Richard was handed a suspended prison sentence at Exeter Crown Court after he admitted causing death by careless driving.

The court heard that, if he had been paying attention, the crash could have been avoided and that he had earlier smoked cannabis and was probably driving too quickly.

Both Jane and Richard decided to take part in restorative justice – a scheme that enables communication between victim and the person that committed the crime against them.

As part of Restorative Justice Awareness Week, Jane has spoken about the process and how it helped her to deal with feelings of anger she had following her son’s death.

“I was away visiting family when my husband phoned to tell me the news that Will had died in a car crash. That was the moment that my world shattered,” said Jane.

“The restorative justice team became involved because my police liaison officer had told me about the service and when the criminal proceedings had finished I felt the need to find out more.

“The Make Amends team came to visit me at my home on a number of occasions and they guided me through the whole process.

“They helped me to understand my needs, managed my expectations and explored the impact of the harm. I wanted to meet the driver and they helped prepare me for a face-to-face meeting.”

It is a service that Jane hopes more victims of crime will consider exploring.

She added: “It gives you a voice, it gives you the opportunity to express how you feel, to let the person who’s caused harm understand the consequences of their actions, so, hopefully, they do not repeat that behaviour and harm others.

“Personally meeting the driver also helped me to learn more about the impact of what had happened to him and to gain insight about him as a person.

“To hear his heartfelt apology has helped me in some part to deal with the anger that I have been carrying with me about what happened to my son.”

Kind-hearted, sensitive and popular Will Ure.

Kind-hearted, sensitive and popular Will Ure.

In Devon, Cornwall and the Isles of Scilly, restorative justice is delivered by Make Amends, a service commissioned by Police and Crime Commissioner Alison Hernandez.

She said: “In order to reduce the impact of crime, we have to ensure victims have access to high-quality support services.

“Restorative justice is an important part of that offer and I am very pleased that Jane was provided with the support and guidance that she required.”

Make Amends service manager Dr Davina Cull said: “What is clear when we do restorative work is how brave and courageous people are when they volunteer to undertake this type of communication.

“In sharing a space together, the dialogue helps both people understand each other’s experiences and enables questions to be answered.

“Of course it can be challenging, but it can also be incredibly transformative for them both.”

Victims of crime in East Devon who want help and advice on restorative justice can contact the Victim Care Unit online at victimcaredevonandcornwall.org.uk or call 01392 475900.

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